Everything You Need to Know About Weddings

  • Guest at Same-Sex Weddings

    Guest at Same-Sex Weddings – My college form Melbourne Bronte Price has written this excellent advice.

    Things to keep in mind at a

    same-sex wedding

    The wedding season is in the planning stages now, and we all could not have been happier. Thanks to the latest developments in marriage equality all over the world, there are more fun weddings around the corner. We all enjoy weddings because of all the significant elements they include, the love, the drama and all those emotions. Even as a wedding guest, you get to play a small role in someone else’s love story. This in itself is magical.

    Photo credit Vincent Lai

     

    Same-sex weddings can be even more interesting than their counterparts. You should feel fortunate to have been invited to a same-sex wedding this season. That in itself, calls for a celebration. However, being a guest at a wedding takes much more than just arriving at the location on time. An ideal wedding guest tries his or her best to respect the couple and make things easier for them on their big day.

     

     

    The specifications of what makes a couple feel good and special, vary from couple to couple. This is depending on their genders, their preferences and religion etc. In case of a same-sex wedding, the etiquettes aren’t very different from that of straight weddings. But they are certainly more customized to a same-sex couple’s life choices and preferences.

    5 things to keep in mind as a guest at

    same-sex weddings:

    1. Read about the terms the couple uses & stock to them during the wedding:

    Have you been invited as a guest at aSame-Sex Wedding? If this is your first time attending a same-sex wedding, do not assume you know the terminologies the couples use for themselves. They might have certain non-traditional terminology that they use to refer to their union and to their counterparts. Don’t just assume that the couple prefers “Bride and Bride” in a lesbian wedding. They could have chosen to go as partners or as “Woman and Woman”. It’s important to stick to the terminology to show your respect and support to the couple. You can listen carefully to the experienced marriage celebrant. Marriage Celebrants in Melbourne are highly experienced and courteous and make sure they make the day as smooth as possible for the guests and the couple.

    Read more about terminologies online and stick to what terminology the couple uses. Look carefully at the words they have chosen for themselves, the words on their invites and the titles they used in their ceremony. It actually wouldn’t need too much work to figure out the couple’s preference.

    2. Find a card that is relevant to the couples Gender and orientation:

    The market is opening up to this new business opportunity that the LGBT community has brought in. However, there’s still time to be able to find the perfect gift for same-sex couples in a neighbourhood mall. You can’t just give a husband and wife card to a same-sex couple you are visiting. Every couple, no matter straight or same-sex, likes things that are customized to their choices and preferences. This might take some effort but goes a long way in making the couples day better. Do not settle down for a generic card, research more about the couple’s non-binary gender identities. This shows that you have cared enough to learn about them and support them wholeheartedly.

    3. Be prepared to see non-traditional and non-gender traditions:

    It’s okay to be amused when you see something or experience something for the same time. However, make sure that you do not react to these changes. Most wedding traditions and cultures have been

    secured with time, based on religion and other beliefs. These specific wedding traditions are specific to the couple’s orientation too and that is why they are very gendered. Things like father-daughter dance, best man etc. are all traditional and gendered. You may or may not be seeing these gendered wedding rituals at a same-sex wedding. The ring bearer could be the couple’s pet, the mother of the groom could walk him down the aisle. Keep an open mind and enjoy this fresh change. These traditions were made to make the couple feel comfortable in the first place.

    4. Don’t make things awkward for everyone by asking the couple about their future plans:

    You are a dear friend and you are concerned about the couple, that’s understandable. However, the couple may or may not be comfortable answering to your curious questions on their busy wedding day. And secondly, it’s wise to give the couple privacy about topics like children and house etc. You can ask your questions if any, when the couple is relaxing. Make sure you are not making the couple uncomfortable. If questions regarding kids and finance can make a straight couple feel awkward, it will obviously do the same for a same-sex couple.

    5. If you don’t have anything great to say, better keep quiet.

    You might have a lot of opinions and suggestions for sure. However, understand that not all your views, suggestions and opinions are for the good. This will certainly make things awkward for the couple and others supporting them. Do not tell your opinions out loud on your RSVP cards or for that matter at the wedding. You have views and you want them answered, stay back home and make things easier for the couple and for yourself. This is another reason where the role of a marriage celebrant comes into the picture.

    Most marriage celebrants suggest the couple to keep the guest list as a minimum and close as possible. Understand, that the couple is inviting you to be a part of their love story. If you believe in that, you will feel welcome. If you have objections, it’s wiser to keep them to yourself. It’s the couple’s choice after all.

    Most importantly have lots of fun. Same-sex couples and their weddings are fun, classy and creative. Being a part of it, as a guest will just make your day a little bit brighter.

    Author Bio  – Australia’s Bronte Price is the first ever certified gay celebrant from the continent that now boasts of marriage equality. He is also the co-founder of an Equality Network that caters any LGBT wedding needs by creating a better experience through wedding suppliers. As a member of the GLOBE (Gay and Lesbian Organization for Business and Enterprise), he works tirelessly to empower the LGBT community. His websites Gay Celebrant Melbourne and Bronte Price is a stunning example of his dedication for celebrancy that unites the power of love. Apart from that, his fiancée Clint and their four-legged fur baby – Bingo are Bronte’s quintessential lifelines. He is also passionate for volunteering as a newsreader at Joy 94.9 and spending time in his organic backyards comes a close secon

    For more information regarding Sydney Same-Sex Weddings please visit to my Same-Sex Weddings page

  • How to be a great Bridesmaid!

    Bridesmaid Etiquette.

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    To help understand how you can best support the bride as a Bridesmaid I have put together a list of Bridesmaid’s etiquette.
    Before the wedding help the bride remain calm and focused, everyone has a lot to do and you will all be preparing to look your best however don’t lose sight on the fact that it is her day. Have a bridesmaid who is keeping track of time and limiting any outside factors that might make you late, specially hair and make up artists who want to do the best job but can run overtime.
    After walking down the aisle make sure the bridal gown is looking it’s best, no need to rush this, it’s all part of the ceremony and the photos of you helping her are part of the day.

    The Dress
    Immediately after the ceremony it’s time to literally “Watch her back”, the bride will not be thinking of this ( she just got married !)but she CANNOT walk backwards in a full dress with a train, if the dress is a little to long her shoes can get stuck in the dress, or she may frequently stepp on her dress so keep an eye on this now and for the rest of the night. She may need reminding not to walk backwards, she can trip and fall over!

    Makeup.
    After the ceremony you will go for the official photo shoot, delegate a bridesmaid to have make up ready somewhere close by( go get it and keep it with you).
    Common make up issues are for both bride and groom is people may kiss them and they both end up with kiss marks on their face, have powder ready to touch up and wet ones( best thing ever for foundation on suits) or tissues for the groom. White chalk is the best thing for covering lipstick stains on the wedding dress if wet ones does move the stain.

    The Groom
    Grooms often sweat a lot during the ceremony, keep extra tissues handy and alert him to wipe sweat from his face during the photo session.

    The grooms suits often ends up with foundation smudged on his shoulders from kissing and hugging the bride and being congratulated, all the points previously mentioned can end up as issues during the official photo shoot.

    The Reception.
    Often brides don’t eat or drink much( sometimes anything) before the reception, by the end of the photo shoot they can feel quite dizzy and weak. Have some water close by and encourage both bride and groom to keep hydrated. Same when your sitting at the table, of course everyone wants to celebrate but drinking on an empty stomach after such a marathon of a day can really cause the couple to feel unwell to early in the evening, gently remind them to have a glass of water and eat some food!
    Keep an eye on the dress, strapless dresses can drop down and cause embarrassing wardrobe malfunctions, alert the bride ASAP if you can see anything she would be embarrassed about. iphones will be on her all night and we don’t want anything on social media that she would not want to be seen.

    The Couples First Dance.
    Have a makeup touch up before the cutting of the cake and the dance.
    Keep an eye on the dress all night, you can have some safety pins and Hollywood tape on hand so she can move around and be comfortable specially just before the couples first dance.
    If needed you can safety pin the petticoats up a bit if she keeps tripping over it. Avoid pinning the outside of the dress as that may tear but underneath should be O.K.

    By doing all these things you will be seen as great friends & bridesmaids who are helping the bride look and feel at her best all day and evening.

  • Best Celebrant NSW 2016

     I’m very excited to announce I am honoured to have received the ” Best Celebrant NSW 2016 “

    Award from the Australian Bridal Industry Academy.

    Best Celebrant NSW 2016

    http://www.abia.com.au/

    I would like to thank all my wonderful couples for your input into voting for this award as it is your rankings and no one else that got me there. I strive for perfection to make each wedding the very best wedding possible as I really understand that a couple only has one chance to get it right on the day. There is no ” O.K so lets try that again”! Every time I conduct a ceremony it has to be the best one ever and I hope the votes of my couples reflect that it was for them. I am immensely grateful for the loyalty and support my couples of 2015/16 have shown.

    This recognition means so much to me and I will be forever grateful to have received this award.

    Best Celebrant 2016 Award
    ABIA Awards Night Winners Photo Credit Life Studio Inc

    On Tuesday the 6th of December 2016, the Australian Bridal Industry Academy hosted the 20th New South Wales Annual Bridal Industry Awards at the exquisite Dockside Cockle Bay as a means of determining the best wedding crews in New South Wales. A total of 37 categories were acknowledged for the contribution, which they make to the wedding industry.

    A grand total of 6,416 New South Wales couples selected 423 nominees, 290 finalists and 37 winners.

    The Chairman of ABIA, Mr John O’ Meara congratulated Sydney Civil Celebrant Fiona King as a winner of the Australian Bridal Industry Academy Award. Mr O’ Meara went onto say that it was businesses like Fiona King’s which enhanced and enriched the industry, through their tireless pursuit of excellence in Designing the Dream for each and every one of their unique wedding couples.

    On behalf of all the New South Wales couples who tied the knot over 2015/2016, we say thank you Fiona King CMC for the passion, pride and professionalism which you bring to the wedding industry and the assistance, advice and support which you bestow upon the future brides and grooms of New South Wales.

    Some lovely reactions to the win from my previous couples:

    Congratulations “Best Celebrant NSW 2016”  WOW! We believe you deserve every point of it! You were an outstanding celebrant for us, and we will always remember you, and our lovely ceremony, with intense pleasure. Thanks for letting us know, and we hope your future continues to be rich and rewarding.

    Robyn & Kim

    CONGRATULATIONS Fiona!!!!!

    Todd & I are SOOOO delighted that you won Australian Bridal Industry Academy Awards, “Best Celebrant NSW 2016” We are not at all surprised though! You totally deserved to win!

    I declare an officially celebratory Celebrant Chicken dance is called for!!!

    I can hardly believe it’s been almost a year since we tied the knot (literally) with you!

    We will treasure forever the wonderful ceremony you provided for us and our family & friends Centennial Park. The wording you selected with us could not have been more perfect! It was as if you had known us all our lives. We will always feel SOOOO totally blessed to have met you. It was truly the best wedding gift ever!!!

    Your win highlights how much each and every one of the couples who you unite with such personalised ceremonies treasures the gift you have and give to each and every couple that you meet! While sadly as an adult I may have been forced to query the existence of Santa Claus, no one will ever make me doubt that there really is a Cupid because I not only met her but was married by her!!! May you continue to go forth and and share your gift of uniting love through the galaxy…..

    All our love, admiration and gratitude forever & always will be yours,

    Susie & Todd Philpott

    Dear number one celebrant in nsw (yes that is you)

    We were more than happy to to extend our thanks by voting for you in The Best Celebrant NSW 2016 Awards.  You made our day so very special we could not imagine another person who could have done it better. You will all ways be in our hearts and memories for now and the end of time. Hope 2017 is as powerful and magical as 2016.

    Lots of happy vibes Bradley and Lauren x